I am giving up your approval for Lent
 
 I am giving up your approval for Lent.     To which my husband said, when I told him, "I approve of that."     "Dear, you may support me and hold me accountable, but not approve."     This realization came to me Ash Wednesday night, after I was unexpectedly enlisted to impose ashes at our combined Episcopal/Catholic service.      not my handiwortk        I was talking to my husband how this all came about and he declared I was "overthinking" which got me really mad. (So you know he was right.)     And then I asked: did I read the prayers slow enough? Was the silence too short? Too long?     Who IS this crazy person?!?!     And that's when I realized that just when I thought I had the "needing others' approval" thing under control, I don't. It doesn't matter why it's back but let's just call it increased uncertainty.     It's insidious this seeking of approval so this is going to be a tricky one.      Your mishegas is ...
